The first psychopathic individual who ever openly revealed their 'condition' to me was an co-worker who told me he was a 'clinically diagnosed psychopath' while I worked in the same department as him in a Wall Street bank during the mid-1990's. Recently, while looking over the original notes for the book which was to eventually become Puzzling People: the Labyrinth of the Psychopath, I stumbled upon a description of this individual from my recollections of his 'performances' around the office.
One of the details I noted was that he kept a collection of Winnie the Pooh memorabilia on his computer and around his desk, while his computer screen saver was an image of Pooh and Tiger. Looking back at it now, I have come to see that the psychopath carefully used the imagery and motif of Winnie the Pooh to cultivate a 'little boy lost' persona while also triggering maternal feeling among the women in the office. It was a carefully orchestrated piece of mind control in order to make others lower their psychological defences by assuming - from the Winnie the Pooh toys on his desk - that there were dealing with a delicate, 'gentle soul' and not the precisely arranged camouflage of a ruthless manipulator.
I think it was Jay Wiedner who said Stanley Kubick used teddy bears in his movies to denote the presence of unearthly evil entering the storyline. This is interesting, as a neighbour once told me a Tibetan monk asked her to remove all the teddy bears from her house as they often are repositories for demonic entities. A lot of psychopathic grown males keep teddy bears, or present teddy bear motifs to target maternal instincts in women. Is there something to this? Some grown men openly call themselves "a big teddy bear" - this is harmless, and not the same thing as grown adult men who surround themselves in teddy bear/Pooh collectibles and make sure that everyone they know is aware of this. This is were it gets disturbing. The need for these adult men to pretend they are helpless little boys filled with innocence and vulnerability. There is nothing in doing this except to play on the emotions of others for their own benefit.
I think it was Jay Wiedner who said Stanley Kubick used teddy bears in his movies to denote the presence of unearthly evil entering the storyline. This is interesting, as a neighbour once told me a Tibetan monk asked her to remove all the teddy bears from her house as they often are repositories for demonic entities. A lot of psychopathic grown males keep teddy bears, or present teddy bear motifs to target maternal instincts in women. Is there something to this? Some grown men openly call themselves "a big teddy bear" - this is harmless, and not the same thing as grown adult men who surround themselves in teddy bear/Pooh collectibles and make sure that everyone they know is aware of this. This is were it gets disturbing. The need for these adult men to pretend they are helpless little boys filled with innocence and vulnerability. There is nothing in doing this except to play on the emotions of others for their own benefit.
One also has to ask the question - what is Winnie the Pooh really all about? Especially since Disney brings out a toy such as this:
What the hell is really going on with these grown men who push a Teddy Bear/Winnie the Pooh loving images of themselves upon others? Is this perhaps a secret code among certain individuals with behaviour disorders to identify each? And more disturbingly, to what end?
I wouldn't just stop at teddy bears or winnie the poo. I've crossed paths with 2 very narcissistic and quite likely psychopathic men who are obsessed with surrounding themselves with all things innocent and child-like. One of them was obsessed with collecting transformers and the other was obsessed with star wars memorabilia. it wasn't just a hobby either, they spent thousands of dollars and pretty much hoarded this stuff. It's quite twisted when you think about it. why would any adult be interested in childrens stuff. I think it definitely indicates some sort of pathology or emotional retardation. Ladies if you meet a grown man and he adores little boy stuff, run the other way.
ReplyDeleteYes that's very common. Martha Stout in the Sociopath Next Door first covered this aspect of the psychopath who collects obsessively - and you are correct, it is not a hobby. They have no interest in the themes and ideas behind the item they collect. There is no passion for the hobby - it's for show to others. It's just collecting objects for the sake of having them and in the case of the psychopaths usually 'soft' things like Disney and Teddy Bear imagery to create a sense of 'I'm innocent and need to be taken care off...trust me"
DeleteThis explains a lot. I've known two grown men who surrounded themselves with children's stuff. One was really into star wars and the other was into transformers. They really wanted to be perceived as boys by every one around them which is really creepy. Both of them turned out to have quite narcissistic-psychopathic type personalities once I got to know them and see behind their little boy personas. Luckily I never got very involved with either of them so I got away relatively unscathed.
ReplyDeleteI'm not of the religious persuasion, but I found the link below to be very compelling in light of what you said about the Tibetan monk:
ReplyDeletehttp://freeinthelordministries.com/Dolls.htm
I agree it might be a little odd for grown men (or women for that matter) to have an interest in teddy bears and cartoon characters but does it necessarily mean they have some sort of dark psychological motive for doing so? At worst it's it's sad because they're still clinging on to their childhood but I see nothing sinister in that.
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